Anxiety about dating again
She told one of her clients he could half-jokingly say his date was so beautiful it was making him feel a little socially awkward to be with her.To venture into the discussion of social anxiety without explicitly mentioning it, therapist L.I already met a cute girl and asked for her number, but I am afraid I will screw it up again. As for your second problem, it's true, you do sound a bit anxious and intense.I know others have much bigger problems, but I feel like a lot of my issues are what single guys and girls are often feeling -- when to call, what to do, etc. You want to go from 0 to 100 with women after one date. You can certainly call or send a text to thank someone for a nice night out, and you're allowed to be nervous when you hit the send button on your phone, but not every date is going to turn into a relationship.
During therapy sessions, both Poag and Klimaite helped their clients practice for the big conversation.But sometimes I think maybe I am trying to go out with girls who are too "attractive," at least based on my definition (not everyone agrees). The more important issue is that while I actually do pretty well with getting dates and meeting women, I drive myself absolutely CRAZY with (1) when to call, (2) when to text, (3) when to meet, and (4) freaking out that maybe she doesn't like me and on and on and on. I could go on an awesome first date but then smother the girl, texting the next day what a great time I had, asking her to go out again right after, and trying to contact her too much.When I say, OK, let me try someone who maybe I am not attracted to but could be good for me, I am totally not into it and end up feeling I wasted my time and hers. One girl said that she got a sense of paranoia from me and that I could be insecure. I am just trying to be honest when they ask personal questions. Friends always tell me to play it cool, but I totally can't. – Totally Lost in NYC Your first problem doesn't bother me, TLINYC. And you seem to be finding plenty of women to pursue, which means that you're not being too exclusive.All relationships struggle sometimes and when anxiety is at play, the struggles can be quite specific – very normal, and specific.Anxiety can work in curious ways, and it will impact different relationships differently, so not all of the following will be relevant for every relationship.